Only my best freinds (in fact, usually only other Hungarians)
ever call me a Hunkey.
is the point here. I remember an incident when I first came to Japan and
was running around with a mixed crew of Japanese and Americans. At a
noisy party one night, one of the Americans yelled out "Jap" at one of the
Japanese guests. The room got really quiet for a second, until
tha person shot back with "gaijin". After this, there was a feeling that
now all of us in the group had crossed a line; we
could insult each other (and get away with it) as only friends could.
It doesn't surprise me that Jason Wilke doesn't find derogatory a term
which others do, or that he doesn't mind referring to himself in this
way. After all, I have heard African-Americans referring to themselves
(in jest, as a defense mechanism, etc.) as "nigger". And it was "queers"
and "dykes" (not heterosexuals) who formed groups like Queer Nation and
Dykes on Bikes. Does that mean that it's okay for everyone else to use
these insulting and just down-right mean words? Of course not. It seems
to me that if SOME people find a term that's used to describe
them derogatory, then that's good enough reason to consider them to be so.
Danny Long, full-time gaijin
I find it somewhat odd that Jason Wilke keeps trying to convince us that
a term (in this case German 'Ami' for 'American') lacks any negative
connotations by emphasizing the degree of trust, closeness, and
friendship that exists between him and those who use this term on him.
For me, that is a pretty good sign that it probably does have negative
connotations. Only my best freinds (in fact, usually only other
Hungarians) ever call mea Hunkey.