Date: Sun, 19 Oct 1997 21:47:03 -0400
From: "MELISSA S. SMITH" mssmit01[AT SYMBOL GOES HERE]MOREHEAD-ST.EDU
Subject: Re: thank you . . . thank you
On Fri, 17 Oct 1997, Peter McGraw wrote:
At some point during my teens (in the late '50s), I got the idea that it
was impolite to say, "You're welcome," which up to that time I had always
said without thinking, and that one should always thank the person back
instead, to give the impression that, "Oh, the obligation is all mine," or
something. I wasn't aware at the time that everybody else had gotten this
idea, but it seems to me, too, that I rarely hear "You're welcome"
anymore. I'm not sure whether this is because others have taken to saying,
"Thank you (back)!" or whether it's because more informal replies have
taken over--such as "Sure!", "You bet!" (mainly in the West, I think), and
(in recent years) "No problem!"
On Fri, 17 Oct 1997, Larry Rosenwald wrote:
The recent query about "in future" vs. "in the future" prompted
me to ask this. When I listen to the radio, I'm often struck by the
fact that when a host of, say, a talk show, says to his or her guest,
"thank you for being with us," the guest replies "thank you" rather
than "you're welcome." It's my (unsubstantiated) impression that this
replacement is becoming more common, and was considerably less common
when I was growing up (I'm 49). Has anyone else noticed this?
Best, Larry Rosenwald
"You're welcome" is a rather meaningless saying. It has been replaced
with "No problem", and "Don't mention it". This tells the person that
said "Thank you" that you were more than happy to lend a hand and that
recognition is not necessary.
Melissa S. Smith